This is usually every girls biggest day and so was mine. I was little nervous.

It was around 6 in the evening and it was a little cold…considering that it was summer back then it was very strange…

We parked the vehicle. There was a guy, who was sitting outside and was selling  these very beautiful Aurel Flowers. We picked two bag full of them and then walked towards the gate(as the gate was onto the main road we had to park the vehicle a little away).

And while I was walking and thinking how it’d be to meet them.. there was this chill shiver through my legs and it was a little hard for me to walk…I never was in this situation before and its my in-laws……..I stopped ……..for a minute and and looked at him(who is now my husband)…he said “Don’t worry…I’m with you…” and saying that he held my hand…..we opened the gate and started walking inside…

There were not many people around…a couple of workers cleaning the place, picking up the leaves that are falling off from the trees and clearing the walk way….and they stare at you intensely wondering where you will stop……and then …..we did stop when we reached the right place….

There I was holding his hand and standing in the middle of the Cemetery, nervous, tensed and bereaved. I cannot forget that feeling and will never forget that first visit..and yes both my father-in-law and mother-in-law are in the same grave next to each other. We got the surface cleaned and arranged the flowers and spent some time in silence.

May their mighty souls rest in peace…Amen

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Well, for the ones who did not know (which might not be a lot of you) I got married on Dec 4th 2009.

And then a new journey.. wait..why do they say new journey?? For some reason I feel it was normal untill that “A Day” that am gonna write about. It was exactly then that I felt that I’m Married.

It goes like this…

• 6:00 AM : In Bed. Alarm went on.
• 6:01 AM : Got out of bed into the kitchen straight.
• 6:10 AM : Coffee is ready for Hubby.
• 6:11 AM : Back to the bedroom. Woke up hubby. Gave him Coffee and back to the kitchen
• 6:20 AM : Hot water ready for a shower. Done with washing utensils. Done making break fast for Hubby (just oats but still counts)
• 6:45 AM : Out of the shower. Got dressed. Waiting for the Cab.
• 6:55 AM : Good bye to Hubby. In the Cab.
• 7:30 AM : At office.
• 5:00 PM : Stepped out of office.
• 6:00 PM : Reached home. Hello Hubby.
• 6:20 PM : Relaxation time.
• 7:00 PM : Swept the house.  Washed clothes in the machine (to guide your imagination).
• 7:15 PM : Visited parents with Hubby.  Had fun.
• 8:00 PM : Back home. (5 min drive)
• 9:00 PM : Made Chicken (for hubby, hez a pure non-vegeterian), Rotis and Beans curry(for me am a pure veggie).
• 10:00 PM : Washed the unclean vessels.
• 10:30 PM : Back to bed. Zzzzzzzzzzzzz……….

and there it was ….a very perfectly normal and mechanical day as it might sound for anyone who is married but it was the one day that made me feel that am married.

Sometimes it is very important to enjoy even the smallest things we do in life, does make our life very cheerful.

Adios

and this time it got a lil worst then ever !! 

When you are in “that” place where your brains (yes plural) are out of your control and cannot find a way out, a friend comes in handy.

Sit down with that person, throw everything on your head out and you will get that will to work things out, but I cannot promise you will get a fiend who will not judge you and will accept you with the way you are.. (with all the madness insdie your head) ..not everyone is as lucky as me ..(In case you want to talk .. am listening !!! )

Taking off from wok for couple of days .. will chill out iron some processes in my head.. and am sure I will be good to go

Happy V’day to everyone
and
Happy Budayy Mittu Luv u .. Hugs…
[I'm trying the Quick press]

I guess there is a new me here…. I wonder how will I handle it, but I guess you guys will notice it !!!

Love, Is probably the most sought after emotion and is a must have. It is that butterflies feeling in your tummy, that blush on ur cheeks and that feeling that skips your heartbeat, those sweet nothings you do that will make you feel so happy, those sacrifices that make u’d love to do again and again those wonderful times you have together and those fights where at the end you again patch up coz all that matters is love at the end of day .

I’m more nervous than looking forward for this day this time..

How has it changed over the period of time. It is now more of a physical need than emotional. It is more evil than it ever was…  I really do not understand how can someone splash acid on the person you love? Oh well stop calling it love in the first place…. There is no place for so much hatred when there is love. It is our duty to educate them, I’d say parents have very less to do in this. It is friends and the circle you hang out with that is behind such incidents. Ohh ya and movies I must say is the core inspiration to be in the “I have to get what I want else I will kill it” attitude.

I know I hyper react to such events and write posts like “I hate Men” but at the bottom of the day when I cool down I learnt that the only way to cure something is with love. 

There are too many issues that revolve around this… 

• Infatuation : 
• Physical Vs Emotional(need) : 
• Love Vs Hatred :  

And among all this there are some happy stories too.. with the valentines day right in the corner I hear this buzz around me with people planning for surprises etc and I was thinking that this day dint mean a lot to me except that its my best friends birthday and like every year we are gonna have a rocking party  ohh and I came across something very sweet.. this Tee’s someone was selling for V’day 

I fell in love with it  

P.S : Got a dump of movies and other cool stuff on a DVD, my first Vday gift for this yr

Hate that they have the freedom which they misuse and everyone is ok with it.

Hate that they can live their lives on their own terms and never have to depend on anyone to take a decision.

Hate that they have been given the power over women to abuse, torture, use and kill them.

Hate that they do not tihnk before they act.

Hate their guts that they can get away with any any kind of [cheap] things they do in life and expect you to accept it.

I do not understand how can they be so rude and emotionless.

They are the weaker ones if you ask me. They are the ones who are scared of a commitment, responsibilites.

Hate when they CRY about losing the freeedon which women never ever had.

Its the woman who manages everything inside a family and we still call it that a man runs a family or the head of the family. I do not know when will things change or if they will ever change.

It disturbs me a lot that MEN around me, sometimes the ones who are very good friends behave so insanely that you feel like killing the entire breed. 

GOD, I pray for every soul which was hit by this curel “MAN” kind. Please do not let any other MAN behave like an animal that, we will stop trusting any one of those. Please do not let any another woman go through hell when she dersves to be treated well. Please lord, fill love and not hatred in a MAN.  Let there be peace in the hearts that are facing this cruelity. Amen.

I dont remeber when I was so excited about tuning into Live TV eager to hear what the new President will speak.  But then I wasnt dissapointed.

The way he spoke about Equality was so damn inspiring. He was talking about the people who got america to this place and thanked Bush for his contributions and also that there is no looking back now, I saw America change in his speech am pretty sure he is gonna go great guns.

Thats when it stuck me, when did we ever have a leader who is so inpiring who sounds so true and means what he actually says. The answer I got was neva…They say it right, we can never get into the developed mode untill we get leaders who have the vision to get us to that level. You might ask that the change has to come from with in and not depend on the leader or the govnt. But that needs inspiration, in the time behind us the leaders came out because there was a major suffering in their lives which effected everything and everyone around them.

But its not the same now, common man has got into that comfort zone where we all are happy as long it we are getting what we want and at times when we crib about the govnt and forget it after a while get used to it as we get our basic needs addressed and we pretty happy with it.

The change definately has to come with in and am more than eager to see that. And what I’m doing to get that change? You will soon see.. on www.letsbethechange.org 

Regards!!!

the plan is to go on with this diet for 3 months !!!

The Diet Chart :(recommended by a dietitian and online research)

Early Morning :  1-2 glasses of lukewarm water(with jeera/saunf/honey/lemon)

Breakfast : 2-3 Idlis or 2 plain dosas[non-stick pan] + 1 cup sambar + White Oats (I love them)

Brunch : Apple/Pear/Orange

Lunch :

·     1 bowl veg soup or rasam +2 glasses of buttermilk

·     1 bowl salad

·     2 chapattis without oil/ghee

·     1 cup dhal or sprouts

·     1 cup skimmed curd

Snacks : salad or  2 Marie biscuits or 1 cup salad or 1 cup popcorn(again my fav…its fun to eat what u like and still be on diet ;) ) 

Dinner : Same as Lunch minus rice

You can add :

Citrus Fruits Soybeans, Asparagus, Beets, Brussels, Sprouts, Cabbage, Carrots,

Celery, Cucumber, Garlic, Horseradish, Lettuce, Onions, Radishes,

Tomatoes, Apple, Cider, Vinegar

Water : 12 – 15 glasses per day

Sugar or Oil : 2 spoons per day

Avoid : Sweets, oily and fried food, aerated drink, canned food, processed food, coconut, ground nut

Exercise : Atleast 1 hour walk or your routine workout session. Make sure you regulate the minimum calorie intake.

 Will post weekly updates on the progress!.. if you want to go ahead and try .. be my guest !!